divorced women/widow will be alone

[sa101666]

Originally Posted by Edyta

Yup! U nailed the real issue.
The woman can be very attractive, nice personality and financially capable but with her divorced status and kids she is doom. She will still get plenty of attention with men wanting just sex from her. If she does not give then these men will run like no tomorrow.
The best way to survive is probably keep a low profile n focus on the kids. Find interest/hobbies, charities to volunteer n friends that will see her till the end of life.

sad to say, i actually agree with u. Most men dont wanna feed kids which are not their own. Personally, i feel the same way too. Esp singapore got woman's charter, where getting married means the man loses out in many ways if anything happens.

[sunhuan-con]

Originally Posted by sa101666

sad to say, i actually agree with u. Most men dont wanna feed kids which are not their own. Personally, i feel the same way too. Esp singapore got woman's charter, where getting married means the man loses out in many ways if anything happens.

I was told when a woman has no love for the man...she will go all way out to get his money during divorce..Woman charter is unfair for man.

[jackson555]

Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

I was told when a woman has no love for the man...she will go all way out to get his money during divorce..Woman charter is unfair for man.

but hardly a woman feels no love/care for the man even after marriage, unless the man has done something despicable.

[soggypanties]

Originally Posted by milfmilf

if is a toddler, especially if a girl, maybe easier to accept. But raising a girl also scary lah.. needs lotsa of protection. What did the little rascal do to you? ... how old is he?

I don't think its about what the child did. My point is that no matter what, if the child is not yours, its almost impossible to see him/her as your own. Similarly, the child will never regard me as a parent. This is further complicated when the natural father is poisoning his mind to disrupt the relationship.

[topcook1]

I see no point in remarrying again especially for guys.. the only advantages is only companionship. But for companionship guys got to pay a high price for it. Dont let the small head rules the big head..I might sound selfish and negative...

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

I was told when a woman has no love for the man...she will go all way out to get his money during divorce..Woman charter is unfair for man.

Not every woman is like that. End of day he is still the kids father n the man she choose to marry. Give and take, kindness goes a long way.

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by topcook1

I see no point in remarrying again especially for guys.. the only advantages is only companionship. But for companionship guys got to pay a high price for it. Dont let the small head rules the big head..I might sound selfish and negative...

No point for financially ok women as well actually. Marriage means sharing of assets again, too scary.

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by sa101666

sad to say, i actually agree with u. Most men dont wanna feed kids which are not their own. Personally, i feel the same way too. Esp singapore got woman's charter, where getting married means the man loses out in many ways if anything happens.

Even if the woman don't need him to feed the kids, emotionally the man is also apprehensivr to play the scary role of step father.

[Rocode]

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[sunhuan-con]

Originally Posted by Rocode

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Nice one...

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

I was told when a woman has no love for the man...she will go all way out to get his money during divorce..Woman charter is unfair for man.

Then, it is for the man to be wise and protect his assets. So please seek counsel with a good lawyer before marriage.

There are also men in Singapore who are claiming against wives.

[4getful]

I guess probably women hate wc more than men hate it? I think Marriage can be a simple give n take. Men needs sex, wives gives, leads to happy marriage. Men deprive of sex, it is a matter of time he goes for other women, then divorce. I think with women nowadays thinking they have wc, some tends to yaya papaya n declare divorce, thinking this way will destroy the men. End up outside have plenty of women from different countries waiting for the men to choose n yet she becomes lonesome, so wat she have the $, become rich. If there is no wc incorporated to start with in a marriage, maybe no women will anyhow say divorce n there will have many happy marriage. People will cherish their marriage .
A marriage breakdown, the kids who under the mother care, will always think the father is at fault. Juz a thought, a clap needs both hand to do the work, one will not be able to do the job. If there is a tumour, cut it b4 it kills you. Who will in the right mind to give up one who is good, demure n can make the marriage a colorful memory.

[Yakuza]

Is a genuine problems tat persisted thru out history worldwide .. no real good ans to every diff individual situation .. we hv to learn to adapt to life changing moments .. no 2-ways abt it .. no one or even the counsellors are wiser other than U yourselves to understand the predicaments and the heart wrenching experience that u r going thru or went thru ..

Those who weather thru storm and still stand tall and firm will be much happier, stronger .. n wiser .. though there will aways be some who nvr learn.

Just remember tat u hv gain freedom, not by choice, and treasure each and every moments to love and forgive urselves.. ........ and with that .. a clear n calm mind comprehended with a serene heart & soul ... u can take on the world and raise ur wonderful kids just like emulating a family nucleus.. cheersss ..

I really luv this sub-forum section .. where real life issues are discussed upon with real life experiences and sharing solutions for a happy ending (as far as practically possible) .. hv a happy mid-week ..

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by Yakuza

Is a genuine problems tat persisted thru out history worldwide .. no real good ans to every diff individual situation .. we hv to learn to adapt to life changing moments .. no 2-ways abt it .. no one or even the counsellors are wiser other than U yourselves to understand the predicaments and the heart wrenching experience that u r going thru or went thru ..

Those who weather thru storm and still stand tall and firm will be much happier, stronger .. n wiser .. though there will aways be some who nvr learn.

Just remember tat u hv gain freedom, not by choice, and treasure each and every moments to love and forgive urselves.. ........ and with that .. a clear n calm mind comprehended with a serene heart & soul ... u can take on the world and raise ur wonderful kids just like emulating a family nucleus.. cheersss ..

I really luv this sub-forum section .. where real life issues are discussed upon with real life experiences and sharing solutions for a happy ending (as far as practically possible) .. hv a happy mid-week ..

Yup be contented with what we have n make the best out of it is the way to go. If not will be firever miserable. But still.... its gd to just talk abt it sometimes abt life disappointments n this forum is gd.

[Johnbass]

Those couples planning marriage and those still in marriage can also learn from you folks.
There are some folks who got lucky in their 2nd marriage too.
Cheer up!