The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[giggz83]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

lolz.thks bro,i dont deserve that,perhaps that is one of the reason y i start my ktv cheonging,looking for smth to fill up the empty space in my heart.thinking back at times do aches here and there but i told myself,hey,that is what u wanted,move and go on.

haha.. done that..

after i broke up with my first love, i oso did that. cheong ktv, go disco, go club. sianz..

burn a big hole ... in the end. still emptiness..

screw the freaking whore .. Soo sianz.. no feeling .. i really miss the lovevy feeling when doing it with gf.

haiz.. now going ktv is so sianz.. waste $ waste time .. knowing that after every session is still emptiness .. still thinking of her.

well, like what you say .. move on and go on.

[Thai Rak Thai]

Sigh..can't always get what we want in life mah...

[Deztruct]

sad also pass 1 day
happy also pass 1 day
life so short
why be sad?
try to be happy ba

Its beta to smile a fake smile than not to smile at all. The worst thing is when you cant even smile a fake smile

[-itr-]

Originally Posted by JWNY

Exactly...there so many permutations...I'm not trying to find the perfect one..I'm trying to ask myself, does this person exist?

Short poll:

How many of you guys and girls...have loved someone so much, but the sex is terrible...really unenjoyable...but loved sex so much with someone else, but not want to commit to that person just because it's the sex that is GREAT?

Be honest..can't be good at EVERYTHING

JWNY

i liked your honesty.

well said.

[-itr-]

after reading a couple of stories here i like to add mine too.

well lately,i have got back in touch with the ger whom i first love when i first saw and knew her @ 14. but luck was never with me becoz , i got to know her thru my fren whom goes to the same sch with her.
and back then , she belong to those hangout with her peers or classmates and where as i was like a alien desperately tryin to reach her and get close with her. coz she just belong to those decent , conservative kinda of ger.
well alot of the memories i have during young days does include her , going to the old cathy, old satay club, old diamaru..etc
and one of the most common first fun driving the first special ger when we get to drive our own car.
and all these while , she never really officially belong to me til,
the final last week before she got to ROM with her current husband , the reason was this loser was serving his lao peng Ns during his late yrs .
so to keng stayout and not to lose her , he chose to rom , which i last understand from her, she just agreed blindly not knowing whether is the right thing anot.

boy, after for the long years of courtship, i really have her in my arms and everything tat a couple does.
and exchanged our true feelings for each other.
but its all too late coz.. both parents and met and exchange their blessing for this wedding

so there i was lan lan.. got to let her go.
and back i went to this wifey of mine now whom been thru thick and thin with me.
but sometimes being alone or late @ nite. i wonder is this the right woman i married? or just someone i have to live for the rest of my life til my ic is up to surrender?

it has been 5 yrs since we last spoke or met. til lately by chance we hooked up again thru msn.
so we met each other despite we r both married .coz by luck both our spouses r away for work.
and this meeting i think we both knew it ain't so simple.
its gonna lead us somewhere or just to continue wot we left behind becoz
of circumstances and true enuff, it did take off.. coz we just didn't have enuff of each other.
but sorry bros and sister.
i did not engage luv making session with her.
brothers , am i a dickhead or wot? damn Knn.

the only thing i luv being with her was..
its like she is the one u can share the joy and laughter of thinking back
those silly young days u been thru .
so lookg back , there is fun, joy laughter +++ing abt it.
this is the special feeling i yearn from her.
and she claimed i'm the only one whom can give her this too.

okay.. so u see this is one true luv i still have in my heart.
but shortly.. this renewal affair didn't last long, coz she feared
our little secret might not be long and might harm or disturb our own marriage
life, or the other half. just becoz of a dumb forwared email i sent to her.
man i F**king regret it.. initially it was all out for fun. didn't realise the impact
of it.
the title was "did i married the wrong person"


and now.. this special ger in my heart has left me again.. and i still think of her @ places where i been with her . and i have to revert back to the role of a husband of a particular woman.
til now, i still wondered does this special woman luv me or just wanna get some kick outside her marriage? when i know she is the super decent conservative sort.

but being a man of my age goin to the 30s... its all abt career and money chapter in life.so i can't be blinded by some luv or question in life.
i have to move on.

this thread has helped me to release my locked up words.

[5ag1_Boar]

itr,

Seems like the only joy you get from your past love is about the past. What about now? What about the future?

I don't know the relationship you have with your wife, but it can be spiced up, made better, more loving. Lots of books, courses, seminars, workshops, out there to help.

I left my wife for another. While I don't regret being with my current gf, I do regret screwing up my marriage and my son's life. My ex-wife is a really nice person but I was blind then. As one bro said earlier... learn to love most the woman you married.

[Five Stone]

Originally Posted by -itr-

after reading a couple of stories here i like to add mine too.

but being a man of my age goin to the 30s... its all abt career and money chapter in life.so i can't be blinded by some luv or question in life.
i have to move on.

this thread has helped me to release my locked up words.

Some words are best left unspoken, like memories are best left cherished. The unimaginable path ahead never fails to allure souls like us to ponder and mesmerize what could we have left out. Perhaps it is such undesirable outcome that makes fools like us keep yearning for more. Life goes on, grass is always greener on the other pastures. Learning to make the best out of what you have and cherish her perhaps is a bigger challenge than to look for the perfect one.

[-itr-]

Originally Posted by sagiboar

itr,

Seems like the only joy you get from your past love is about the past. What about now? What about the future?

I don't know the relationship you have with your wife, but it can be spiced up, made better, more loving. Lots of books, courses, seminars, workshops, out there to help.

I left my wife for another. While I don't regret being with my current gf, I do regret screwing up my marriage and my son's life. My ex-wife is a really nice person but I was blind then. As one bro said earlier... learn to love most the woman you married.

bro,

i thank u for the kind advise.. and yes its true, one of my close fren kept warning me the same thing.my wife is a nice person who takes my shit.
so again no one is perfect.
tats y til now, everynite before i sleep.. i like to look @ my wife when she's asleep, and kept reminding myself this is the woman i gonna get old with.
and bearing the fact that thru thick and thin she stand by me.
which by nature myself, i will always cherish or return the favour whom had helped me.
so the more i can't betray my wife.

[-itr-]

Originally Posted by Five Stone

Some words are best left unspoken, like memories are best left cherished. The unimaginable path ahead never fails to allure souls like us to ponder and mesmerize what could we have left out. Perhaps it is such undesirable outcome that makes fools like us keep yearning for more. Life goes on, grass is always greener on the other pastures. Learning to make the best out of what you have and cherish her perhaps is a bigger challenge than to look for the perfect one.

tats was wot the special ger in my heart always or nvr fail to say.
sweet memories will always be with her.
sometimes , i wondered... am i taken for a ride? or its just life is not fair?

probably the greatest challenge is to move on ahead and fulfilling what my wife wants now.. "Family?"

OMG...

cheers...

[-itr-]

Originally Posted by sagiboar

itr,

Seems like the only joy you get from your past love is about the past. What about now? What about the future?

I don't know the relationship you have with your wife, but it can be spiced up, made better, more loving. Lots of books, courses, seminars, workshops, out there to help.

I left my wife for another. While I don't regret being with my current gf, I do regret screwing up my marriage and my son's life. My ex-wife is a really nice person but I was blind then. As one bro said earlier... learn to love most the woman you married.

bro,
spicing the relationship up.. erm is kinda of difficult.. and its like
our life has become so routine.
and til this stage in our life basically becomes a partner for one another whom
knows or read the other one's mind.
so...i dunno man..
i getting confused.. too
but like u said. learn to love most the woman u married.

which i'm tryin to do it everynite before i sleep.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by -itr-

learn to love most the woman u married.

which i'm tryin to do it everynite before i sleep.

One of the best quotes I've heard so far.

I'm trying my best to do that. Extremely difficult but I believe I'll get by. Whenever I think I cannot take it anymore, I look at my kid and think of her as the woman who gave me this beautiful child. At least that keeps me going for now.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by giggz83

well, like what you say .. move on and go on.

as for me,i had moved on,just that seeing what the bros here posted so wanna share my piece.life is too short for us to keep on living in the past,grieving over it and ignoring the present & future which shld matters most.

[natsuki]

The person u married may not be the one u love the most, but if he/she willing to go thru thin and thick with u, he/she is definately the person u can turn to whenever u r down.

Anyway, hard chances of marrying the one u loved the most.... so please... 珍惜眼前人... Life is too short for regretting past deeds.

[natsuki]

So sorry... Double post... dui bu qi..

[natsuki]

dumb comp... sorry.. posting delete...