Does the so call " true love " still exist???

[playboy82]

[QUOTE=jinrenhe]Yes that's the feeling... that someone whom i could look forward to meeting after a long day at school or work. During weekends, someone i can plan activities like watching movie, eating supper with... these stuff seems so natural to most ppl, but to me, it's like a impossible dream...

And that feeling of being "un-loved" jus gets worse during special occasion like xmas etc where everywhere in orchard road u see couples happily in love..
stay at home nothing to do, thought go shopping around to 散心, but usually end feeling moody after seeing other couples.. haha.
when u are alone, sometimes u really feel there's no place on earth for u



Ya, then when u out shopping alone, u will scare u bump into ur friends or colleuge, cos you afraid that they know u are alone shopping. And so, weekend, we will have no where to go, other than stay at home n surf sammy boy.

[Hanzy]

Originally Posted by playboy82

Ya, then when u out shopping alone, u will scare u bump into ur friends or colleuge, cos you afraid that they know u are alone shopping. And so, weekend, we will have no where to go, other than stay at home n surf sammy boy.

ya! and they usually will ask u "你一个人啊" "u alone" den u have to think whether to say the truth or not.. if say u alone, they will give u that kind of look.. machiam ur anti social or wat.. juz feel urself as kinda pathetic..

actually imo, for those who are looking for their soulmate.. or has the will to fight for their happiness.. means they love themself.. has the abilities to give her the happiness i think.. for mi.. eventhough i may like someone and if she reciprocate the feelings, i might nid to think twice... as i dowan to be burder to her in the future.. and that she will find someone better.. lack of confidence? i dono.. juz tat dowan to waste other ppl's time? not sure whether share the same feeling..

[Deztruct]

Is there really true love?

Well if true love is about

1. stayin up at abt 3am after a tiring day at work and goin to a concert after work..
2. come back..just wan to bath n sleep..but
3. ur ex online and she confide in you tat she has a problem with her bf..
4. spend the whole nite consoling her
5. while still hv to wake up for work tmw..

well..if true love is like this..yeah..there is true love then

[Herich]

Originally Posted by playboy82

ya, i bet a lot of ppl are also the same boat as us, and the truth is, i am not fat or short, and with basic looks... but jus have no luck with love.. Think if there are past life,, then i must be a very wildful playboy so to result in this life, cannot get the gal i want.

Indeed, there are many so called decent looking and eligible men out there who just have no luck with love. I would say i am one of them. but come to think of it, at least we guys can go GL to enjoy the brief moments of 虚幻 or 虚假 的 'love' through sexual intimacy. There are many more single women out there who may never have sex in their whole lives. I feel that our women 'counterparts' are having it worse than us.

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by jinrenhe

And yes, usually the only place i can seek solace is my car, driving along the expressway with my fav music playing in the background.... haha but that's how sometimes end up driving into Geylang and xxxx

bro, i understand that feeling.... it doesn't bother me how much effort it requires, like driving across the island from east (where i live) to send her home in Jurong west, buying breakfast & wait at the bus-stop for her.... but it rely breaks me when i realized she's just not into me

All i need is abit of response & encouragment, that's enough to spur me on despite any obstacles.... but alas, what's discouraging i realized she's not remotely interested in me...

Omg..... I'm also dating a girl and she is also like not even remotely interested at all. Replies from her (via sms) is always like so slow most of the time. When call her, she say prefer to sms. But, when I sms, she gives me this feeling that she is doing other .... stuff like talking with her other guy friends. I'm not jealous, but just feel like a fool in the dating game.

Go home that time after dating, that feeling of kenna carrot again is just unmistakable. I also play my fave mp3s, but initial D tracks with volume on full blast. Occasional jam the accelerator or burn some rubber tires.

Unlike you, I don't need anything to spur me on. Only need money to spur me on .... but to buy a sports car. Spent enough money on dating. Some pals were telling me that dating is a kind of investment. I don't agree (but some bros might say otherwise), cos' you don't really know the person you are dating and, by the time all the money go in, gal may NOT be the right person.

But, money throw in car sure no mistake. For 10 years, the car becomes a mistress at ur beck and call. No emotions involved. Once have enough, can scrap for new mistress. But, women .... after 10 years, u scrap, kenna big time (probably have to throw in some alimony too). Car scrap early, at most kena rule of 78 and some painful (but temporal) depreciation cost. At the end of 10 years, if like the car very much, still can renew COE. Have a look at the old Civic (so old), but still running on the roads. But, for women, end of 10 years, buay song, still must tahan. Worse still, even if you want to keep her, she don't want you. Pay for car siong, but pay for unfaithful girl lagi worse. On top of that, find someone faithful (not say pretty or pleasant) also not easy.

No doubt its nice to have someone that you like ...... but sometimes life really unfair. Some people made to wait like donkeys. Others wait an eternity and get nothing. A few lucky guys get to wait only a few days for the right one. Some just see their right one, the day they go school. The last group of guys (including me) are simply the suay ones, never get anything they like. At least, got car in mscp. ......

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by Hanzy

ya! and they usually will ask u "你一个人啊" "u alone" den u have to think whether to say the truth or not.. if say u alone, they will give u that kind of look.. machiam ur anti social or wat.. juz feel urself as kinda pathetic..

Its stupid one. I seldom go go shopping. Spend all my time working. From morning to late evening.

No one here is anti-social. See the number of posts and replies. Maybe, all of us decent guys should stop dating. Save the money for kopi or geylang. If those Singapore women see this thread, it will be the greatest horror of their lives.

IMO, for the guys who replied in this thread, most of them are just nice chaps in person, but just lack a listening ear from the women. If only women can stop throwing sutle hints/ obvious hints/ very obvious hints, that would ve solved the problem of misunderstanding. But, I raise my white flag. Rather spend time solving literature riddles than trying to decipher the women's petty habits and patterns. After working 1 long day, by the time reach my door, its 10.20pm, where got energy to think about entertaining women.............

[Manofwar]

Might exist but kinda of rare for true love ba as gals now mostly are xiang qian kan a.k.a Looking forward for $$$.

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by Manofwar

Might exist but kinda of rare for true love ba as gals now mostly are xiang qian kan a.k.a Looking forward for $$$.

Soon, we will all be looking for foreign talent. Philipino/ viet/ PRCs/ Indos, whats ur preference? lol.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

Soon, we will all be looking for foreign talent. Philipino/ viet/ PRCs/ Indos, whats ur preference? lol.

PRCs or viets for me.anyway was reading at ur posts,agree with some of the pts including being anti-social,i am certain if possible no one wish or like to be alone if given a choice.life is abt keeping urself occupied when there is no one else.happiness may be just there silently waiting for u.just dont stop on the searching.

Bro, is all depend on individual. Some believe in love at first sight, some believe no true love, some believe in no everlasting love.

That is a say:
there are 3 rings, Engargement RING, Wedding RING then Suffer RING.

[Kyser Soze]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

Soon, we will all be looking for foreign talent. Philipino/ viet/ PRCs/ Indos, whats ur preference? lol.

I think I will answer our garment's call to attract foreign talents. Maybe PRCs will be a good choice. I mean decent ones, not FLs please. Fair, smooth-skin and pretty. To top it all, less demanding. To the PRC gals, SG men are rich, refined and one notch higher than their PRC men. To our SG gals, SG men are poor, immature, insensitive and one notch lower than ang-mohs. Haizzz... comparisons is a killer in judging one's quality and inner beauty.

[hoho99]

Wah, can see a lot of ppl here feeling very tired after looking for a soulmate for a very long time.Hope all will find their true love in time. But please open your heart and mind when going in search. Please note that you are looking for a soulmate, not a bonk buddy, so looks should not be top in the list and you will suddenly realise that there is someone out there waiting for you and in fact she's nearer to you than you think.

Let me share my story. Like many, I also thought that my love will never come. I’m fat, no $$$, not nice looking at all, and all the time if a female come looking for me, it's always abt their matters of the heart or work. My troubles I’ve to talk to the sky. I did go after girls but either they are not interested or end up with some other guy. During that period i wonder how come some jerks or ah beng always end up with pretty girls while we who slog away ends up with nothing. The world seems unfair then.

But miracle do happens. One fine day when I’m coming out of my workplace, there she is, just coming out of her workplace too. She’s not pretty, some would consider her a plain jane, and is plum. We greet each other and exchange a few kind words and that’s it, she somehow captures a place in my heart. We did not talk to each other for a while after that. It’s until a few mths later when we had a chance to take supper together that we share more about ourselves (She even abt knows my activity in Geylang and Ktvs). Believe it or not what happens in the next 10 days later seems like a blur. She dumps her Bf, and ends up with me. My friends told me not to expect too much as she may be acting on impulse but we’ve been to for more than 3 yrs now. I’m fatter now, almost 100 kg, and poorer now, look shabbier than before, yet she still stick by me.

So all single guys out there please believe that someone is still waiting for you. She may not be beautiful, can shake a few moves like the girls in pubs nor very capable at work but at least she will stays by you through thick and thin. So all the best to you ppl, eye open big big ah. Sorry for being so long winded.

[powDerful]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

my frds n colleagues always tot tat i got i noe tat i am being stupid for continuing on..but at the end of the day i tell myself..the decision is made by myself..even if the consequences is tat i wld b hurt ultimately..i still willl accept it..everythin little thing i do for her..i juz wan her to be happy..she need not reciprocate my feelings..mayb this is not true love..i juz being stubborn to hold on to this relationship but at least everythin i did for her is unconditional

Dear Deztruct,

I will be very blunt over here. No offence intended.

It seems very obvious to me (based on your story) that this gal is very lonely, and needs someone to be with her 24hrs * 365days. During weekends, she will not sms u, but during weekdays she will sms u like crazy. It seems obvious that she either likes you, or she treats u like a spare tyre, when her boyfriend is not around.

If I were in your shoe, I will try not to get so close to her. Or I will just tell her that I love u so much, so it's either him or me. Let her take a long hard look and think who can give her more happiness. So u must be prepared to either win the gal over, or u lost her! Go go go!

But then, u nv know how many guys she has been sms on her mobile right? She might also be smsing to other guys as well as you. This kinda person, very smart one, might be 1 leg on two boats. Be careful mate!

On the other hand, for godness sake. Dun waste time on your ex bullshit on whether she having problems with her bf anot lah. This is honestly my advise. Tell her to shut the fuck up and get the hell out of your life. Delete your ex from your msn list and continue finding your true love. If someone who breaks up with you prevoiusly, still want to share with you on how her bf treats her, she sucks. Waste of time, might as well take the time to sleep!

I am sorry if I am being so direct, because I do not have writing skills like others who can beat around the bush and write in a more better manner than me. Best of luck to your tackling of gals!

[freedom]

i have to agree with you on this bro.
ger nowaday are like that
they see who is better for them and they will dump their current bf and got for the new guy or else they will just stick to you till they find a new one.

i think your ex is not been fair to you. feel like she is using you.
to you, you may think it worth it but to other you are been used
think about it

ya i agree with bro hoho99
i myself am just finding a girl who is willing to go through the downs n ups with me.
think that is the most impt thing i will look for in a girl