Is there true love between us and PRC WL

[shawn_mib]

Originally Posted by gniwgonwk

You have to take things into YOUR control!

All the best to you again - and hope that you are able to sort things out this year. You have the support of us in SBF.

Thank bro gniwgonwk, i have tried to called her yesterday but she was not reachable at all. She told me she will call me once she gets home yesterday, but till now i have not heard from her yet.

kinda sad, i'm here and she is there, now i dun even know what is going on right now.

[ziyi]

I suppose if you really want, make that trip ... treat it as a holiday .. btw half a year is a short time .....

You need to make sure she has nobody besides you. Have you see her p/p and see where else she has been to etc ....

[shawn_mib]

Originally Posted by ziyi

I suppose if you really want, make that trip ... treat it as a holiday .. btw half a year is a short time .....

You need to make sure she has nobody besides you. Have you see her p/p and see where else she has been to etc ....

no i have not i didn't want to interfer with her pte stuff too much, and i do know she have many men. i dun mind all that, all i wish is that she is true to me that all....

[barons]

Bro Shawn Mib,

Your encounter is almost the same as me... she said she will call me once she reach home... but till now, 5 days liao, still never call. haiz.. what can we do?

[dirtyhairy]

Originally Posted by shawn_mib

no i have not i didn't want to interfer with her pte stuff too much, and i do know she have many men. i dun mind all that, all i wish is that she is true to me that all....

Yo S-M siao dee,
it's one thing to be blind in love but it's another to love blindly
while it's good to forgive yr gal's past, it's different to ignore the present
bcos if left unchecked, it may affect and ruin both your future union
but if her feelings for u are genuine,
she must accept u as her only man, if u know what I mean
otherwise sharing her with others,
not only can make you jealous
but will eventually sour up d relationship,
no matter how hard u try to keep
so go find the time and sort things out
before thinking of starting your love bout
BTway...if you cant fone thru...
it's not tat she ignoring you
the huge surge in calls during LNYear
is affecting everyone, including DirtyHairy here...
for my communications have been affected too with my baopei dear

[colins]

Originally Posted by shawn_mib

no i have not i didn't want to interfer with her pte stuff too much, and i do know she have many men. i dun mind all that, all i wish is that she is true to me that all....

Bro, can you accept her if she still got many men and yet be true to you?

The more I read about your post, the more worrying it is. Put it this way, take yourself out of this equation, how would you have thought about somebody in your situation? Havent you given enough excuses for her?

I went to shenyang once, to look for a girl who came to singapore to see her mum. She wasnt a WL because I was with her everyday and night. I have neither her address nor was she informed. Naturally I din find her and continue my work in Hubei. When she came back, I was in HK. She waited 9 days for me and I told her I waited 3 days for her in shenyang. She broke down and told me everything. She got a 5-year relationship with a hometown bf.

Now she said she is willing to stay with me and break off with him. I said I will go Hubei and stay there for 3 years. She is willing to stay in Hubei with me without applying PR in sg. And she is here with me now. Guess wat? I dun believe her. I asked her to prove herself in 3 months. If I gonna spend my life with her, I think she needs to pass this, or else I'm going to go thru shit again. I'm NOT trying to inflate my own ego, I'm only protecting my mind. Who knows what will happen to me when she leaves again and lost contact again? Am I going to get changed into another person for a betrayal? Not worth it, man.

Please dun give your girl trust becos we simply can't afford to keep hoping and hoping for them to reciprocate your feelings. Even if its a relationship, it doesnt work this way. Get real, please.

Sorry for the lohsoh-ness. Old man and drunk man do it pretty often.

[aczeta76]

It is like that lah.. u muz realise that regardless of wat.. most of them have someone at home.

Like a close WL told me recently.. 9/10 WL in S'pore all have husband or bf at home.. they love him hence are willing to work in this line to earn for their future.

Silly how they give up their life and body for someone whom may not deserve them while here we are messing up our lives for them when they have someone else in her life.

Anyway, I am quitting the scene actively. Only left one or 2 WL I will visit. Shall remain true to OC and settle down soon

[Heart Break Kid]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

It is like that lah.. u muz realise that regardless of wat.. most of them have someone at home.

Like a close WL told me recently.. 9/10 WL in S'pore all have husband or bf at home.. they love him hence are willing to work in this line to earn for their future.

Silly how they give up their life and body for someone whom may not deserve them while here we are messing up our lives for them when they have someone else in her life.

Anyway, I am quitting the scene actively. Only left one or 2 WL I will visit. Shall remain true to OC and settle down soon

True ..good for you

[Intel Ops]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

It is like that lah.. u muz realise that regardless of wat.. most of them have someone at home.

Like a close WL told me recently.. 9/10 WL in S'pore all have husband or bf at home.. they love him hence are willing to work in this line to earn for their future.

Silly how they give up their life and body for someone whom may not deserve them while here we are messing up our lives for them when they have someone else in her life.

Anyway, I am quitting the scene actively. Only left one or 2 WL I will visit. Shall remain true to OC and settle down soon

All the best. Treat your OC well. Personally, I had not came to this stage yet. Maybe because still does not has an OC yet. Still wanna have my fun now. Happy CNY to all.

[shawn_mib]

thanks for the concern of all brothers here, Colin, HBK and many more, i understand what you all meant, well i tot abot this question too myself, when she is wif me other guys called and i would have to endure all those sweet talk she has wif all this unknown guys, truthfully, it hurts.

but what can i do? if i have the money, i would have married her and settle down with her, but i can't now, not at this moment. But i believe that as long as i can hold on and she reali love me, all this will past soon. And i would forget all this shit and move on with her.

today finally i recieve her SMS, miss her so much, i brought up the issue on visiting her in china, but she told me to wait and see 1st, cos SGD800 air tickets means reali a lot for me to foke out now and she knows that. I even suggest that if she dun wan me to visit her , then allow me to send her some cash, she rejected that too and told me to save that money dun waste it just like that.

I'm just a useless and penniless guy, she know that but she just choose to stick with me till now. So how can i bring myself to just let her go now and betray her now, i can't find the courage to... deep now i hope that she will be back here but i don't want her to be back here. I'm just very lost now....

[rapebill]

I think communications and a money-link is always important if you want to maintain a relationship with a PRC. You can try some of the following:

1. Pass her a Citibank maxisave ATM card (no withdrawal fee). Just simply put in small amounts (about S$100 each time) for her to use as petty cash. It's better than remitting large amounts of money which can be easily unaccounted for. Furthermore, the service fee for remittance is $20 each time and it's so inconvenient. With the citibank maxisave, it's so much more convenient with internet or atm banking (no I don't work for citibank).
This cash-line is very important. If she suddenly need money, like to see a doctor, you can easily provide her the money.

2. Use QQ (ÌÚѶÊ×Ò³) to communicate with her. QQ has video chat and internet cafes are easily available and cheap anywhere (except in rural areas). The quality may not be so good but at least you will be able to assess her body language. You can even play online games (such as mahjong or card games) with her. When you are more steady with her, you can buy her a computer (about 4000+RMB), internet connection is about 100RMB monthly. It will be more convenient for her to chat with you at home, especially at night.

3. Use calling cards to call her. You should be able to chat with her for hours at night or when you are not working. Calling cards will limit your phone bills. You can always call her at any time (except during her sleeping time). If she only has you, she should not mind. If she can chat with you whole day, I am sure she will only have you. Even if she does has a bf besides her, the guy will not be able to stand her chatting with you whole day. SMS are relatively expensive (at 15 cents each). Might as well chat with her, 15 cents can give you about 10 mins (calling card).

4. If you want, you can pass her a supplementary BOC LianYin credit card. But this is optional as it can burn a hole. The advantage is that you can track what she spends on, with the monthly statement. The card should also be good for most major supermarkets and hospitals. Hence for grocery purchases, she can just use the credit card and hence depend less on the ATM card (maybe for housing rent).

5. You should try to meet her on an agreed upon frequency - like at least once in every 3 months. You can get her to come down to the southern part or even places like Bangkok/Malaysia. Yes, all this will cost money but you can minimise your spending with some planning.

Anyway, having said all these, it still take a lot (especially trust) to maintain a long-distance relationship. Mine broke down after I cut the money-link (ATM and credit cards) because of her overspending. A PRC woman who is really in love with you will always help you save money. The moment she anyhow spend your money will be when she does not love you anymore.

Money is always an issue. If you want to stop her working as a WL, you have to support her financially and hopefully get her to have a decent job to pass the time.

All the best, because everyone will discourage you from having this relationship because the chances of succeeding is almost zero (which is unfortunately true; I am yet just another statistics).


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[shawn_mib]

bro rapebill thanks for your offer, but i think what i need the most now is some1 that can offer me a job in beijing and i can move over there drawing SG pay plus allowance. Then i can reali take care of her life there....

[colins]

Originally Posted by shawn_mib

bro rapebill thanks for your offer, but i think what i need the most now is some1 that can offer me a job in beijing and i can move over there drawing SG pay plus allowance. Then i can reali take care of her life there....

deh, make sure you can deal with the 'worst-case-scenario' if you really go beijing. If the relationship din work, or you find out some truth regarding her on-off-attitude, are you going to quit your job and come back?

Like that, your priority is a bit mixed up, bro. If got job opportunity in Beijing, its for yourself and not just to be with her. Cos if she gives you a negative then, you'll be in a worse state than now, nobody can help you over there liao. At least you can make a living now, its not a sin to be earning less than your expectation, but its quite silly to let this relationship affects your career and other aspects of your life.

You said you want her, you also said you need money to want her. So which one comes first?

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by shawn_mib

thanks for the concern of all brothers here, Colin, HBK and many more, i understand what you all meant, well i tot abot this question too myself, when she is wif me other guys called and i would have to endure all those sweet talk she has wif all this unknown guys, truthfully, it hurts.

As far as her ALL other boyfriends are concerned, you are just another UNKNOWN GUY TOO!

[Fuckster]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

As far as her ALL other boyfriends are concerned, you are just another UNKNOWN GUY TOO!

I agree with that, haiz...... after reading through some bros stories, I kind of pity them and I really take my hat off to those PRC Wl here, they really know how to tie up a man's heart left and right.

A poem specially for all bros who fall in love with PRC Wl :

自古多情空余恨
只怪男人实在笨
为了龙女赔了本
倾家荡产难再生