The one you marry, is not the one you loved most? - Page 80

giggz83 · #**1186** 19-08-2007, 03:26 AM

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Originally Posted by suteerak1099

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season....

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

after all these seasons and reasons .. after all these things we've gone through ...

what are the possibilities that we might be together with the "seasons" and "reasons" .. in the end.

sigh .. i oso don't want so many reason or season ... i want a lifetime, but happily ever after don't really happen to everyone .. i guess.

good description of the passer-bys .. but how about those to-stay?

High Command · #**1187** 19-08-2007, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by nitecrawllerr

Yes, LOVE know no boundaries b4 marriage. After marriage...sigh...

That's why they refer to marriage as the old ball and chain. But with the right girl the ball and chain becomes bonds of strength.

WildatHeart · #**1188** 19-08-2007, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by suteerak1099

my sentiments: 什么是爱？爱就是用心去感受. [translates: wat is love? love is to feel/receive with one's heart] check the traditional chinese character for 爱, it literally is 受 [feel/receive] + 心[heart] (sandwiched in between).

it takes me a while to digest...
I am a Chinese.. rather good in Mandarin too..
yes, many old chinese character or even Japanese kanji has very good meaning when you try analyse them... it is a collection of past history/experience/learning, etc..

if you follow this forum in general, you do encounter many cheongster sometime falls into dilemma and even eventually falls for their tiraks.. PRC, Viets, Pinoy, etc.. it started of as a fling, commercially related.. then feeling grows.. the so-call love or loving feeling kicks in.. everyone falls..

Such occurence is normal.. cheongsters have to learn to get hold of their mind and throw aside feeling once out of the place.. in order to stay on the road further... it's almost a rule liao...

using it as analogy.., at the moment of fling, dont you use your heart to feel..?
(I believe la.. else, your little bro wont be able to react based on logic thinking one.. hahahha)
all lust comes from heart actually.. that why people say 心魔..
sorry I am not out to offend anyone.. I am also not equating the higher level of love to fling.. let me go on..

matter of fact is if we use our heart, our heart by it self is not stable.. it is situational, emotional and depends on the phase of life one is at.. and the phase of life is an accumulation of life past experience + desire(wishful thinking or target destination) or expectation of future (near or far)..

It changes..

thus feeling changes and nothing is constant..

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Bros, if possible, someone can up me so that I have enough power to upz those upz me before.. thanks..

eQuipment · #**1189** 21-08-2007, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by giggz83

..........good description of the passer-bys .. but how about those to-stay?

those stay also never stay too long, cannot stay forever. maybe if they wanna stay, the garmen will ask them buy season parking.

WRX_STI · #**1190** 21-08-2007, 05:55 PM

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Originally Posted by eQuipment

u mean looks like this??

i really dunno how to say, bt bro, u got very chim theory for luv.

indeed dat is cheem

_AXL_ · #**1191** 21-08-2007, 06:39 PM

爱

recognise this??? this is the new simplified version... noticed anything different? the 心 (meaning heart) is gone!!! meaning that now, love no need to use heart liao!!! cos it is replaced by a 友 (meaning friend)....

Deztruct · #**1192** 21-08-2007, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by _AXL_

爱

recognise this??? this is the new simplified version... noticed anything different? the 心 (meaning heart) is gone!!! meaning that now, love no need to use heart liao!!! cos it is replaced by a 友 (meaning friend)....

i guess it mean that all love should have frdship as the foundation..coz at least if the love is gone..at least there is a frdship for us to keep as memory

alwaysandy · #**1193** 23-08-2007, 07:03 PM

usually is always not the one you loved most....cos cannot manage to get hold to her

Xdecepticon · #**1194** 23-08-2007, 07:54 PM

I truely believe Love only exist before marriage. After marriage especially years down the road, even if theres love its not as strong and romantic as when before marriage. Likelihood we end up No Love and KC already.

suteerak1099 · #**1195** 27-08-2007, 10:31 AM

well, there's just myriads of permutations/algorithms of how 1 percieves love to be.... but generally, that feeling is intangible... sometimes doesnt even need any reason/ justification.

taken from 孙燕姿's song, 《开始懂了》
"... 爱情是流动的，不由人的，何必激动着要理由..."

at the end.... 快乐是选择 - happiness is a choice
whether 1 should find bliss in a marriage with another, with whom he/she loves most.... revolves around the simplest yet most complex of things - "choice"

zunbo · #**1196** 29-08-2007, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by suteerak1099

happiness is a choice

hope u make right choice bro

Red_Tirak1099 · #**1197** 29-08-2007, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by zunbo

hope u make right choice bro

Yes I 2nd that of what bro Zunbo said.....all the best to the 1099 bros

OceanEleven · #**1198** 29-08-2007, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

I truely believe Love only exist before marriage. After marriage especially years down the road, even if theres love its not as strong and romantic as when before marriage. Likelihood we end up No Love and KC already.

That is when love become a habit, becomes a routine. Living with it, we take it for granted, living without we feel empty. Life is a long road ahead. Keep moving is the cue.

suteerak1099 · #**1199** 29-08-2007, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by zunbo

hope u make right choice bro

i wish i do make the right choice, when options present themselves. then again, life's too short to be shackled this early.... sigh

OceanEleven · #**1200** 29-08-2007, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by _AXL_

爱

recognise this??? this is the new simplified version... noticed anything different? the 心 (meaning heart) is gone!!! meaning that now, love no need to use heart liao!!! cos it is replaced by a 友 (meaning friend)....

Kekeke...first hand experience with Chris.....