An Affair with an older married lady... and the aftermath...

[Shrouded]

Monday was a normal day. Morning Zoom meeting, do our own stuff for the rest of the day. I was hoping Jasmine would ask me out for night cycling as the next day was a Public Holiday, but it didn't happen.

Tuesday was Hari Raya Haji, I practically spent the whole day lazing in bed. No one texted or called, and I didn't call or text anyone either.

I headed back to the office on Wednesday to clear stuff again. It seemed like everytime I went back to the office I was somehow expecting Felicia to be nearby, and that I would somehow bump into her at the 7-11 when I bought cigarettes. But she didn't show up or text me.

As expected, Ann had not contacted me yet to talk.

I was feeling bored, so I left the office early and texted Alan to meet him at the dealership.

Somehow or another, I think he expected me to want to buy the car and it was parked on the outside, as if it was waiting for me to do a test drive.

I did test the car, taking it out, testing the acceleration, braking and speed. It was pretty fast I guess, for a 1-litre car. But did I really need a car now? It would definitely be convenient for travelling. But an off peak car had restrictions. Was I willing to abide by those restrictions?

I parked the car and headed into the office.

A: Ok. Now we just need to transfer ownership and settle the insurance.

Me: Say what?

A: Oh. Mom asked me to pay for the car.

Me: Right.

A: I'm not kidding. If you don't want it eventually, just transfer it back. Maybe Alicia will somehow decide to get her license one day.

Me: Why is she being so generous?

A: Who knows. But do you think I paid for my car? Neither did Amanda.

Me: You're her kids.

A: And you're our guardian if she dies.

Me: I don't think this is a good idea.

A: It's already been done. We need the car out of here as it's taking up space.

The admin girl looked at us.

AG: Well? Do I proceed or not? I need the IC.

I passed her my IC.

Me: Cheapest insurance please.

AG: First year not cheap. We have to earn ok? Next year you settle yourself. Budget Direct is quite cheap.

Me: Ok.

A: Even if you don't want to drive it, just leave it at your car park, at least you'll have a car to use when you want.

Me: Doesn't feel good.

AG: Free car don't complain.

She passed me back my IC.

Alan dropped me off at the MRT and I headed home.

Thursday and Friday were work from home so as usual, I didn't do much other than appear to look interested during the morning zoom meeting.

I did notice on Friday morning that Jasmine looked a bit strange, like her eyes were swollen. Or it could just be the poor quality of her web camera.

I dropped her a text to check if everything was fine but didn't receive a reply.

In the late afternoon, the Admin Girl called to tell me that the transfer was done and insurance settled, I could take the car anytime. I decided not to disturb Alan so I headed down myself.

AG: Here are the keys, all the documents inside car already.

Me: Thanks.

AG: Are you lady boss godson?

Me: Err…

AG: Boyfriend?

Me: I guess.

AG: Lady boss very good to all of us. She paying for my school fees.

Me: I see.

AG: If you her boyfriend better ask her faster marry you. Can enjoy life.

I simply smiled at her and took the keys.

The car was freshly washed and waxed, and the interior had that new car scent, or perhaps it was just the hanging tree air freshener thing on the rear view mirror.

I checked the documents and started the engine, letting it warm up before driving off in search of a petrol station.

I was heading home after pumping petrol when Jasmine replied my text, asking if I was free to go over. I immediately diverted to the expressway and headed over.

The guard didn't recognize my car so I had to fill up the entry particulars this time.

I buzzed her intercom and she let me in. Her door was already ajar so I entered. I found her smoking at the balcony.

Me: Hey, everything ok?

She turned around and I got a shock.

Her eyes really were swollen and there appeared to be bruising on her cheek and neck.

She stubbed out her stick and came over to hug me. I hugged her back, although I was looking around to see where her husband might be. Thankfully, he wasn't at home.

J: We had a fight.

Me: I can tell. Hope you won.

J: Of course I did.

I took her back into the living room and we sat on the sofa. I examined the bruises on her face and neck. It looked like she was punched and strangled.

She flinched slightly as I accidentally brushed against her side.

I lifted her t-shirt.

J: Oi! I'm not wearing a bra!

Me: Not as though I never seen you naked before.

I removed her t-shirt. There were bruises over her ribs, and back.

Me: Eh. What happened.

J: We fought?

Me: Over?

J: I asked him to leave his other family. He said he could not. Then I asked him what he wanted. He said he didn't know. I told him I didn't care about his other family, if he's back here he better make things right, otherwise I'll divorce him and find someone else.

Me: Oh.

J: Suddenly he went crazy and started hitting me.

Me: Did you call the police?

J: No.

Me: Where is he now?

J: Hospital? I don't know. Don't care.

Me: Have you seen a doctor?

J: No.

Me: Would you like to?

J: No.

Me: Ok then.

J: Can you buy dinner for me?

Me: From?

J: Opposite coffeeshop.

Me: What do you want?

J: Erm. Indomie gerprek.

Me: What in the world is that?

J: Left side corner stall. Just tell them indomie gerprek, and you want it freshly cooked.

Me: Ok.

She passed me an access card.

J: This is yours now.

Me: What?

J: Access to side gate and lobby.

Me: You aren't afraid I'll come over any time?

J: You can't enter my house without the PIN anyway.

Me: True.

J: The PIN is XXXXXX.

Me: Erm. For real?

J: Even if you come over uninvited, what's the worst thing you can do? Rape me?

Me: I don't think it will be considered rape.

J: Then no issues. Now can you please help me buy food. I haven't eaten the whole day.

Me: What? Ok I'll go now.

[Penguin23]

Damn sad to hear J was hurt - two suggestions for you bro Shrouded:

1. Contact PAVE to get a PPO as quickly as you can. You MUST bring her to a doctor and mention that this was a case of domestic violence, the GP (especially a lady GP) will automatically know what to do.

https://www.aware.org.sg/information...tection-order/

2. Bring J to eat a good, authentic IndoMie Geprek - this is the best one that I know.

https://eatbook.sg/birdhaus-by-project-warung/

[Shrouded]

Originally Posted by Penguin23

Damn sad to hear J was hurt - two suggestions for you bro Shrouded:

1. Contact PAVE to get a PPO as quickly as you can. You MUST bring her to a doctor and mention that this was a case of domestic violence, the GP (especially a lady GP) will automatically know what to do.

https://www.aware.org.sg/information...tection-order/

2. Bring J to eat a good, authentic IndoMie Geprek - this is the best one that I know.

https://eatbook.sg/birdhaus-by-project-warung/

Thanks bro.

1. I asked her a couple of times, she doesn't want to. Apparently he was hurt more than her. But I can't verify that.

2. I'm not eating Indomie gerprek again. It's too spicy. My stomach is killing me. She seems to enjoy it though. Perhaps when can dine in again I'll bring her.

[etsys]

Originally Posted by Shrouded

Thanks bro.

1. I asked her a couple of times, she doesn't want to. Apparently he was hurt more than her. But I can't verify that.

If it's true, snap some pics with date stamp

You never know when it may turn against you

[Bigbluebird]

It's their domestic problem. You should step aside and let them handle it themselves. Even if Jasmine calls you, what is your role there? A fling, a cock that can be summoned instantly, a friend, a colleague? She should clear her own matters herself, then be involved with you, not pull you into the mud together.

[EnigmaofSorrow]

Word of advice, you may be biting off more than you can chew.

At least get her to a doctor to document the injuries, and don't be alone with her. Preferably get her to move back with her parents. If she insists on staying, don't stay alone with her.

[etsys]

Originally Posted by Bigbluebird

It's their domestic problem.

And in Philippine law, (I know this story no philippine one), adultery is a crime. Theory - husband can chop chop the lover boy and plead innocence ..

Anyway in SG too, adultery can bring up trauma

[earlkarl]

Thanks for a well written story. Please share more.

[Bigbluebird]

Originally Posted by etsys

And in Philippine law, (I know this story no philippine one), adultery is a crime. Theory - husband can chop chop the lover boy and plead innocence ..

Anyway in SG too, adultery can bring up trauma

Not just in Phillipines, in many Asian countries, the husband do anything (short of murder) to the guy that slept with his wife, the law enforcement officers side with the husband. And in some Asian countries, if the husband is in the military/police, the legal punishment on the male adulterer is way more severe than many crimes.

[Penguin23]

Originally Posted by Shrouded

Thanks bro.

1. I asked her a couple of times, she doesn't want to. Apparently he was hurt more than her. But I can't verify that.

2. I'm not eating Indomie gerprek again. It's too spicy. My stomach is killing me. She seems to enjoy it though. Perhaps when can dine in again I'll bring her.

It doesn't matter who is hurt more - AWARE/PAVE will want to know what happened and how she got hurt. The fear of retaliation is real. Anyway, if the husband takes out a PPO against her first, then it will paint her as the aggressor, which can work against her. Bear in mind also that if the condo unit is shared, she cannot change the locks because he is fully empowered to bring along another locksmith to change it again.

Speaking from experience here. My ex-wife went mental one day, pretty much unprovoked, literally bashed me up when I was driving. There was a bit of bleeding, some swelling around the eye, had to throw away a nice tailored work shirt because it was torn in several places. I did not try to retaliate. I lodged a PPO, and this ended up being very useful because once the lawyer saw that it weighed very heavily against her attempts in gaining care and control of the children. I know in your case no children are involved, but you should tell J that a PPO serves to protect both parties from each other, and the one who breaks the PPO faces severe penalties.

Re IndoMie Geprek - ask them to serve you the IndoMie and the Ayam Geprek separately. They will separate the chilli for you. Indomie is naturally sweet, Ayam Geprek is naturally savoury. How much you want to burn your tastebuds, is totally up to you.

Cheers and all the best.

[Shrouded]

Thanks to all the bros here for their concern.

Jasmine has seen a doctor, made a police report and started the process for filing for a PPO.

She refuses to move back with her parents though, I'm not staying with her but she is not alone. She got Alicia to move in temporarily. She's also informed her neighbours of the situation and will seek their help if necessary.

Regarding the indomie gerprek, I doubt I'll have it even again. My asshole is still burning.

[Bigbluebird]

Originally Posted by Shrouded

Thanks to all the bros here for their concern.

Jasmine has seen a doctor, made a police report and started the process for filing for a PPO.

She refuses to move back with her parents though, I'm not staying with her but she is not alone. She got Alicia to move in temporarily. She's also informed her neighbours of the situation and will seek their help if necessary.

Regarding the indomie gerprek, I doubt I'll have it even again. My asshole is still burning.

Glad to hear it. You need to stay sane and objective, and stay off the fucking with Jasmine until she sorts out her own domestic problems, that means no relationship other than being a colleague/friend and no sex, till she is divorced.

Just sharing my thoughts.

[Penguin23]

Originally Posted by Shrouded

Thanks to all the bros here for their concern.

Jasmine has seen a doctor, made a police report and started the process for filing for a PPO.

She refuses to move back with her parents though, I'm not staying with her but she is not alone. She got Alicia to move in temporarily. She's also informed her neighbours of the situation and will seek their help if necessary.

Regarding the indomie gerprek, I doubt I'll have it even again. My asshole is still burning.

Glad to hear about Alicia moving in with J, to keep her company. That should keep them both grounded.

I assume J stays in a condo - you may want to consider helping J inform the Condo Manager about the existence of the PPO, so they can assist with deactivating the (soon-to-be) ex-husband's condo access pass and revoke any parking privileges that his car has. Condo Security should be alerted of any visitors to J's unit (except for the usual Grabfood/delivery folks) so they do not inadvertently let him in. Deactivation of the access card can be done administratively by J, through one visit to the Management Office.

Put the request in writing, and cc the head of the Management Committee. You can (usually) find their contact details in the condo Notice Board where the Meeting Minutes are put up. Condo committees are generally helpful in such cases, because if they are not then there will be hell during the next AGM.

I know another bro said something about not having any sex with J until the divorce is settled - as someone who has gone through the process I can say that there is little point in doing that unless J wants to protect herself against the possibility that her husband will sue her for divorce on grounds of her infidelity. With a PPO already on the way, the judge will more likely than not grant a divorce anyway, on grounds of irreconcilable differences.

And make sure, that J inserts the statement about the husband not wanting to leave the other family in her PPO statement. That is a soft and easy way to making the husband admit, that he was already with another woman and he admits it.

All the best.

And yeah, stick to normal IndoMie, will do!

[driedlemon3]

TS, maybe I can give a women's perspective to this as well. Just a word of caution, women can lie very well also so you might not want to take in every word they say as absolute truth. It might not be entirely untrue but there might be bits to make you think in a certain way. Many women manipulate as much as men. Most importantly look after your own welfare and safety, all the best!

[MatthewC]

TS, great story, keep safe and stay healthy.
Appreciate reading the feedback for others too.
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