Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by naemlo

No matters how horny I am... if I know she is married and still with husband, I will try to avoid her as in sex. Maybe I am stupid but I just can't get pass her husband. So it is good not to know too much personal details.

You are Right .. I will NEVER do that ...

Got " Bao Ying " 1 ok ...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by ansonsohna

Sorry if I offend. And if TS or any regular contributors feel uncomfortable about me opening up - and unfortunately there are other can of worms . I will 100% clam up and just be a silent reader and supporter to this wonderful wonderful thread.

There is nothing to get offend about.

You share what you experienced and thoughts .. simple equations ...

As for its depth and truth, its up to readers to believe it true or not ... we don't scrutinise the sharing.

Every family has its own story to tell ...

For me , whether is Cannot Control feeling or desire and etc ... what have committed is already committed, know and not withdrawing from it, it's a different situations all together .. and further involving will only evolve into "what goes around comes around"

Relationship is a strange affairs .. no body can specifically describe it ... however it's always take 2 hands to clap ... communications ... tolerance ... and many many attributes to make it happen ... not just by Talking ..

Vietnamese do not take relationship / marriage seriously ... only cases of unfortunate ones are know and publised ... Those good ones, you can't even describe how good they are ... and how fortunate they are ...

Well, Maybe what you met are the unfortunate ones and therefore your perceptions are formed on the slightly negative sides ...

from the way you mentioned and the way you handle some situations ... already showed that you are already affected by the negative effects in the circle.

They are many circles in life ...

the good and fortunate ones will formed their own circle to compare how good are they, what luxurous goods they have and etc ..

The bad and unfortunate ones will too formed their own circle adn have their own discussions , bad influnces bad and etc ..

the former group will never mix with the latter group adn thus will never pity them .. thats how a vietnamese is to you ...

the more effects you got, more emotional feelings will be laid out thus translating into more undesired problems. When you are so involve and many negative vales formed , how can see things on the bright side ... how can say in future can open eyes and differentiate ...

Be reminded that vietnamese also possess the mastery art of KC ...

To each its own ... good luck and cheers ...

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by shysaint

There is nothing to get offend about.

You share what you experienced and thoughts .. simple equations ...

As for its depth and truth, its up to readers to believe it true or not ... we don't scrutinise the sharing.

Every family has its own story to tell ...

For me , whether is Cannot Control feeling or desire and etc ... what have committed is already committed, know and not withdrawing from it, it's a different situations all together .. and further involving will only evolve into "what goes around comes around"

Relationship is a strange affairs .. no body can specifically describe it ... however it's always take 2 hands to clap ... communications ... tolerance ... and many many attributes to make it happen ... not just by Talking ..

Vietnamese do not take relationship / marriage seriously ... only cases of unfortunate ones are know and publised ... Those good ones, you can't even describe how good they are ... and how fortunate they are ...

Well, Maybe what you met are the unfortunate ones and therefore your perceptions are formed on the slightly negative sides ...

from the way you mentioned and the way you handle some situations ... already showed that you are already affected by the negative effects in the circle.

They are many circles in life ...

the good and fortunate ones will formed their own circle to compare how good are they, what luxurous goods they have and etc ..

The bad and unfortunate ones will too formed their own circle adn have their own discussions , bad influnces bad and etc ..

the former group will never mix with the latter group adn thus will never pity them .. thats how a vietnamese is to you ...

the more effects you got, more emotional feelings will be laid out thus translating into more undesired problems. When you are so involve and many negative vales formed , how can see things on the bright side ... how can say in future can open eyes and differentiate ...

Be reminded that vietnamese also possess the mastery art of KC ...

To each its own ... good luck and cheers ...

sometime is really depends on fate that makes 2 people come together whether is a vietnamese or not.Every human is lonely on one way on another.
whether one is faithful or not is really depends on one luck.

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Me also get used to it .. but sometimes just cannot control ... especially when i go to the local hospital ...

go local hospital and cannot control

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by ansonsohna

Reading all your posts and having a rough mental image of your respective bx, it is unlikely that she is my FB. This is not to say that she is not someone's else wife.

There is nothing wrong to being in my FB's circle. Its a community. A home away from home. My association here let me realize that even should I marry a Viet or any other foreigners, its is important for her to develop her own circle of friends.

The support here is not only gossip. They bond. They share food. Help babysit and even help out monetarily. Its really money no enough in their allowance for quite a number of them.

Yes, my FB may have an affair. But she does not encourage others to have the same. Nor does she judge, or moralize. How can she? And sadly, quite a few of them do have affairs (some brief, other for years).

I know this may rub a lot of bros the wrong way - as this is "life partner" thread - but I do feel that viets tend to treat marriage more lightly than what the majority of sinkies do. Sorry to offend but this is sincere feeling and observation. Should I one day be married to them, I will do so with my eyes open to this fact.

Sorry if I offend. And if TS or any regular contributors feel uncomfortable about me opening up - and unfortunately there are other can of worms . I will 100% clam up and just be a silent reader and supporter to this wonderful wonderful thread.

i am not offend with what u say cos what u say is what i also agreed but nowadays more and more sinkies is also doing that.our society have change and that is the reason why our country divorce rate is climbing up every year and our birth rate is going down every year

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Golden question

go local hospital and cannot control

hahahhaha .... ok ok .... cannot take it the way they handle things / service the people and etc ...

anyway so long no hear from u .. u disappear where

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by ansonsohna

I remember reading earlier in this thread of bro KT was also part of "inner circle" for a while. The difference is that he is charming and good looking and his VB connection is probably a looker.

i never follow your post but just read that you mentioned me so i read...
my comment is that my england not very powderful and catch no ball on your post....

what is "inner circle"? how come i was part of a circle that i do not know?
you no see me before, how you know i am charming and good looking? its all self proclaimed only

VB connection as in my bx or those WL i hook in gl/jc? they are not a looker in anyway. Only my bx is getting prettier and perttier day by day, year by year

[ansonsohna]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

what is "inner circle"? how come i was part of a circle that i do not know?
you no see me before, how you know i am charming and good looking? its all self proclaimed only

VB connection as in my bx or those WL i hook in gl/jc? they are not a looker in anyway. Only my bx is getting prettier and perttier day by day, year by year

Ah yah KT, earlier in the post .... around about 300 pages thereabouts, (or somewhere in this thread) you mentioned that your gf, bx or whatever once let you mix with her wet nam group of frens and you got an special insight into their thinking etc ... I know its gu pai story, don't know how long ago .... this is what I mean by inner circle mah.

Relative to me, you sure handsome one. I look like skinny version of shrek with receding hairline and and pot belly .....

you also charming what, all the WL fall for you. Sometimes even if I offer $$ got rejected by WL for ST.

[ansonsohna]

Today, I learnt how to play "Tiao Yu", a Vietnamese card game. Kena con of $200 looks like I kena "tiao".

Talking about "tiao", I overheard one elder sister talking loudly to her younger friend's "bf? client?" (in mandarin): "of course she doesn't want to see you anymore. you got no money".

.... dam fierce siah. in fact more garang that china mei mei. and i have met many many fiery china mei mei in my life time.

I can just imagine one day when my FB is tired of me. she will probably say:"you botak, ugly, no money and have a short dick ... waste my time!" in a fierce way, and I will like cower ...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Only my bx is getting prettier and perttier day by day, year by year

you also same same mah ... getting more and more handsome day by day ...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by ansonsohna

Talking about "tiao", I overheard one elder sister talking loudly to her younger friend's "bf? client?" (in mandarin): "of course she doesn't want to see you anymore. you got no money".

.... dam fierce siah. in fact more garang that china mei mei. and i have met many many fiery china mei mei in my life time.

I can just imagine one day when my FB is tired of me. she will probably say:"you botak, ugly, no money and have a short dick ... waste my time!" in a fierce way, and I will like cower ...

this is very common...not only VB but other nationalities too...the gers are here to escape poverty back home...so if the bf dun have money and cannot provide better life then sure the ger will look for alternative...

VBs can be very fierce becuz they had been the person providing family with $$$...very young they will be out to work and suffered hardship...so dun meddle with them...many cases of VB cutting the men penis in the newspaper...

aiyo wait for the day to come...she ditched you might as well you back off from this relationship while you still ahead...knowing that she is married and will not leave her husband...anyway this is just my 2 cents worth...

[asshol3]

Oh dear .. I think I had been KC-ed recently . I would need some advice from the seniors here.

So the story goes like this, been to HCM on 25/12/11 with friends. Under guidance of Fuckger, get to know some of the local Ktv, airport joint , bla bla bla. Lets cut the story short.

So met this girl at local ktv on my second, asked her for khach san but got rejected. Following few days sms her quite a bit and asking her for hotel just to sleep but rejected. so came the last night before returning back to singapore, went to her work place to find her but once again denied me. She say she had "Da Yi Ma" - menstruation. So i left, all set to return the next day.

But out of nowhere came a good new, she agree to join me for one night just to chit chat and sleep at khach san cause she's having "Da Yi Ma". So bought her along to club which my friend wanted to try, afterwhich back to hotel. Btw I dont understand any Tieng viet at that time. So communicate with her using google translate.

Went for a bath, after which you all know la ... action started but she really got "Da Yi Ma" . The next morning we left and she did not demand any $$. So back in Singapore, thought that story was to end .

But here is where the story begins. she got my SG number, afterwhich ask me for yahoo messenger. which we chatted every night for 3-4hrs. at least 6 night out of 7 nights . and average of 3-4hrs. She would be online after work once home to chat . So we Kc each other nhieu nhieu for 2 months already and i did learn quite a bit of tieng viet now.

So was just wondering if this is a what type of situation. Any advice ? she just went to do passport hoping to come singapore work and find me.

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by asshol3

So was just wondering if this is a what type of situation. Any advice ?

What you mean by "what is this type of situation"? What advice do you need ? WHy confused ?

Originally Posted by asshol3

... which we chatted every night for 3-4hrs. at least 6 night out of 7 nights . and average of 3-4hrs. She would be online after work once home to chat . So we Kc each other nhieu nhieu for 2 months already and i did learn quite a bit of tieng viet now.

You have trying so hard to screw her in HCMC ... and now You think you are being led into it ? You sure ?? Not the other way round ?

It take 2 hands to clap ...

so just continue to enjoy xao nhieu nhieu each other loh as long as both of you are comfortable and happy with each other ..

ANyway, You seems Happy from the way you posted ... nothing much advice

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

VBs can be very fierce becuz they had been the person providing family with $$$...very young they will be out to work and suffered hardship...so dun meddle with them...many cases of VB cutting the men penis in the newspaper...

Ya very smart n fierce..... remembering once my ger checked my sperm in the condom and demanded why the level so low.... Kena grilled till jialat jialat. From then, 2 or 3 days before going HCMC must preserve and reserve my sperm.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by asshol3

So was just wondering if this is a what type of situation. Any advice ? she just went to do passport hoping to come singapore work and find me.

keep her in hcm...dun let her cum to sinkie...not good for you to expose her to all the luxury and rich sinkie...also when she learnt all the things in sinkie...then she dun need you roi...

just tell her you will visit her in hcm whenever you can make it...