I think husband and wife should really talk about sex and desire. Don't scared kena judged or what, just talk first. If can fix without eating out then fix. If not eat out already no turning back.
my case is different.
After wife gave birth, and we stop for 2 years. cos she seem discomfort and i assume she don want it. so i DIY all these years.
One day, she talk to me. She asked if i eat outside/cheating, cos i dint touch her for 2 coming 3 years. After a long discuss, she told me her sex drive gain alot as age increase. She was in 39s now.
After that day of long communication, we started to more open, we brought alot sexy lingerie/nightgown/cosplay/pantyhose to increase our sexperience, sometime we fucked in bedroom door openly while my daughter was outside watching tv, sometime balcony/kitchen. she is damn wet
She start to wear sexy dress/ bra top with pad without wearing bra. sometime she went to try some new cloth when shopping, i will wait outside fitting room and wait for her show. we will purposely try those thin cloth so that she can show me pointing nipple and sexy panties. (but still i not dare to fuck her inside as i wan to take care my daughter outside. )
other than tat, She also following those girl KOL who talk sex, and shared with me how to fuck her so that she can feel more deeper.
i feel like i got a new wife after the conversation. Her sexy drive high til i have to stop her. she said she can fuck everyday if i can hold it. I told her maybe of my age, i only happen to fuck every week. i have to brought those tiger coffee to maintain my performance. damn..