Need Help On How To Make My Wife Sexually Active?

[Anel King]

Hi Bro & Sis of SBF

I've been married for 4 1/2 years now. Before marriage I was active in Geylang and HC's almost every month 1 or 2 times. ONS also once in 1 month.

When I was dating my wife stop everything in Geylang & HC's. Only maximum was sucked her nipples, which surprised me as she was conservativebut she was the one who initiated it.

After marriage, we had sex almost every other day till our 1st child. During the 9 months, she didn’t allow me to even finger her below. 4 months after our 1st child we had sex. I was like a caged animal let loose. But we only had sex 1 a month.

Last year was out 3rd anniversary we had decent sex. The next 3 months we only had once a month till April she confirmed she was pregnant again. Again I got hung dry and DIY from April last year till 2 weeks ago.

Looks like I still won’t have sex whenever I want to cause she like not so interested to even start anything. But once we start, she wants to finish fast. And only missionary, from 1st day to today.

No matter what I try to tell her or what I do, she only what to have when she is ok and only in missionary, nothing else.

I don't want to head back to my old play grounds as that will tear the family apart. I am only a regular for JG in the Tuina shop in CV.

Was wondering if any experience bros & sis can advice.

Regards
Anel King

[samyboys]

http://sammyreviews.store/showthread.php?t=168710

bro, guess quite many guys feel the same like you.
the woman becomes dead fish and sex becomes monotonous
sex frequency also drops
all i can think of is for you to get away from kids and have a short break to recharge yourself, else with kids in tow, u can never relax

[tigerprawn]

Reality of life. Common problem that is why a lot of married guys patronise FL or have affairs. Especially in this case where it is not that you got sick of fcking your wife but more cos she lost interest in sex and performing it more as a duty. Bro, realistically you may end up on your old habits again if this carries on, but please just play safe outside for the wellbeing of your family.

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by Anel King

Hi Bro & Sis of SBF

Was wondering if any experience bros & sis can advice.

Regards
Anel King

Tell her... if she does not want to service u, there are many waiting in the queue to provide u much better service..

Bro, if u married a Singapore girl.. then this WILL be ur destiny liao.. u either feel sorry for the rest of your "fucking" life or u should venture out and get what u deserve..

Singapore girls are like that.. they only know "I want, I want I want.." and forgot about the needs of the husband or even pretend not to know.

Of course many here can suggest counseling or whatever.. but let me tell u there she will have a longer list of excuse than yours ... so forget it!

Venture out, have ur fun, eat outside remember to wipe ur mouth, when back home, pretend to be a good husband, like that lor... how else???

If u really want to change her thinking... better u use ur efforts to save the world.

[Urbane]

Maybe you can try to groom yourself ? Get into fitness activities, take more care on how you look, things that makes guys more attractive.

She will notice it and think that maybe you are eating on the outside. She may then pay more attention to you and be more accomodating towards you. It's a good passive aggressive method.

[sgiceboy]

wah bro

@ least u did have sex after yr first child.

for my case hor... alreadi 3 yrs NO SEX liao...

everyday see porn & DIY.... or else how to relieve pressure.....

take it easy...lor.. live each day as it passes....

[digdug]

sgiceboy - 3 yrs NO SEX ? OMFG!!

You got to talk to your wife. 3 yrs NO SEX and you hang around SBF... wow, how do you stand it?

[lovestar]

how true... i wish somebody would tell that to a gal

[cereal-killer]

Originally Posted by Anel King

Hi Bro & Sis of SBF

I've been married for 4 1/2 years now. Before marriage I was active in Geylang and HC's almost every month 1 or 2 times. ONS also once in 1 month.

When I was dating my wife stop everything in Geylang & HC's. Only maximum was sucked her nipples, which surprised me as she was conservativebut she was the one who initiated it.

After marriage, we had sex almost every other day till our 1st child. During the 9 months, she didn’t allow me to even finger her below. 4 months after our 1st child we had sex. I was like a caged animal let loose. But we only had sex 1 a month.

Last year was out 3rd anniversary we had decent sex. The next 3 months we only had once a month till April she confirmed she was pregnant again. Again I got hung dry and DIY from April last year till 2 weeks ago.

Looks like I still won’t have sex whenever I want to cause she like not so interested to even start anything. But once we start, she wants to finish fast. And only missionary, from 1st day to today.

No matter what I try to tell her or what I do, she only what to have when she is ok and only in missionary, nothing else.

I don't want to head back to my old play grounds as that will tear the family apart. I am only a regular for JG in the Tuina shop in CV.

Was wondering if any experience bros & sis can advice.

Regards
Anel King

Let me guess, She's Not Working .... and you don't have maid.

if it is, then "most likely" she is just toooo stressed up handling two kids
plus they are like 2 years apart ?

You need to take the load off her, you need to come back and fill that gap during the evening. Bond with your children and get close to her again and every thing should be fine.

Its gonna take awhile, but my guess is, you're going to loose heart and go back FL or GL again.

[Drooler]

Bro i totally understand how you feel cos i was in the same predicament.Try having a talk with your wife, you are both adults. originally i had difficulty coping as well, stress built up then frustration. decided then to speak to my wife and got green light to get my 'release' she understands that men need sex......and paid sex is nothing but a transaction.

If however one day should i get into an affair and feelings are involved then i will be at fault.

Take it easy and try to do as one of the bro's suggested, the get fit method. cos
1) you need that fitness anyways to handle your kids
2) you will feel good about yourself
3) women are like that, they say looks dont matter but in the end, if they see a hunk, they will still take a second glance.

Good luck dude.

[reflexk]

Originally Posted by sgiceboy

wah bro

@ least u did have sex after yr first child.

for my case hor... alreadi 3 yrs NO SEX liao...

everyday see porn & DIY.... or else how to relieve pressure.....

take it easy...lor.. live each day as it passes....

Bro, you deserve Nobel prize for peace, at least much more than Obama ..

[sgiceboy]

Originally Posted by digdug

sgiceboy - 3 yrs NO SEX ? OMFG!!

You got to talk to your wife. 3 yrs NO SEX and you hang around SBF... wow, how do you stand it?

bro.... after yrs of cheonging, wasting time and $... u tend to realise we men jus need to release dats all... how you want to do it, it's really to u

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by samyboys

http://sammyreviews.store/showthread.php?t=168710

bro, guess quite many guys feel the same like you.
the woman becomes dead fish and sex becomes monotonous
sex frequency also drops
all i can think of is for you to get away from kids and have a short break to recharge yourself, else with kids in tow, u can never relax

Well Bro

I tried to convince her to go to bintan with me for the week end last week. but she didn't want to leave the kids.

Will try again next week once my MIL comes back

Regards
Anel king

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by tigerprawn

Reality of life. Common problem that is why a lot of married guys patronise FL or have affairs. Especially in this case where it is not that you got sick of fcking your wife but more cos she lost interest in sex and performing it more as a duty. Bro, realistically you may end up on your old habits again if this carries on, but please just play safe outside for the wellbeing of your family.

Thanks for your concern Bro

I have been thinking about it the last 3 months actually about going to my old playgrounds. But i just DIY and release the stress. I don't know how long more i can tahan.

But will still lun for as long as possible.

Regards
Anel King

[Anel King]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

Tell her... if she does not want to service u, there are many waiting in the queue to provide u much better service..

Bro, if u married a Singapore girl.. then this WILL be ur destiny liao.. u either feel sorry for the rest of your "fucking" life or u should venture out and get what u deserve..

Singapore girls are like that.. they only know "I want, I want I want.." and forgot about the needs of the husband or even pretend not to know.

Of course many here can suggest counseling or whatever.. but let me tell u there she will have a longer list of excuse than yours ... so forget it!

Venture out, have ur fun, eat outside remember to wipe ur mouth, when back home, pretend to be a good husband, like that lor... how else???

If u really want to change her thinking... better u use ur efforts to save the world.

Bro

Although what ever you said sounded funny, but I think it sounds very correct. Especially it sounds alot like my wife. Maybe even other bro will say the same that its a typical Singaporean wife problem.

I did tell her indirectly once a fews weeks ago when she went to Bangkok with the kids leaving me here. I said, cheekily that i might go to GL soon to F**k if she doesn't want to. She said, go lah!

I have been to China almost every other month since last year for work. And every time my suppliers want to bring me to Drinking, KTV & Massage. I always decline as I wanted to be with Wife only.

Then in May i went to Jiaxing for work again. I was pretty happy with the work that I went to KTV with them and drank nicely. (Those who work or do business in China will know how they are when the let loose) They got a girl to be with me. I was a bit high, so we were rabba rabba ing each other, but dont know in my mind i picture my wife.

Going back time, my supplier kept on asking me to take the girls back to the hotel. i kept on saying no which in the end i didn't.

On the way to the hotel, i called my wife @ 1am. she asked what happened & i told her everything. She was a little disturbed that i was drunk (I don't drink in at all. Only during NS or when i go Reservist) and telling her about the girl.

But she was calm and relieved. She was happy that i was self restraining and was thinking of her. But it wasn't enough for me to make love with her again.

So I am lost again and might end up in my playground again and follow what you mentioned:

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

Venture out, have ur fun, eat outside remember to wipe ur mouth, when back home, pretend to be a good husband

Regards
Anel King