how to get past away from her?

sorrowseed · #1 22-08-2011, 07:46 PM

hello, i've been visiting this forum for 2-3 years and would like to share one of my main problem about a still virgin(yes, VIRGIN, as in hymen still intact) married friend of mine..

we've known each other through facebook last year due to an event and have been seeing each other since then. she's been forced to marry at a young age with her next door friend because of some old superstition and have been going through divorce procedure a few month before we met. things have been harsh on her and i was supporting her with my friends and helping her rebuild her life. a few month ago things between us went to more than friends. she would ask me to stay over and hug her to sleep, and one thing lead to another. kissing, touching and pettting. the problem is whenever i touch her clitoris or try to finger her, she would dry up not long after due to frequent sexual abuse from her husband. according to her, her husband likes to pinch and bite her hardly all over the place, including her clitoris part. she have no problem rubbing herself but whenever i touch her she would just dry up from her trauma. she also wont do blowjob cause her husband would always force her to deep throat and just cum deep inside her mouth. i've tried asking her to seek professional help but she's too scared to talk about her past. so to all brother and sister here, what can i do to let her enjoy a normal sexual life again? that is all she wish for now

geckoSG · #2 23-08-2011, 03:26 PM

Its up to her, if she keeps thinking about bad experience during doing it then
no matter who she talk to will be the same. Its ultimately up to her...

cucujiao · #3 23-08-2011, 03:58 PM

It's a trap. Don't fall for it.

dirtyhairy · #4 23-08-2011, 04:05 PM

Yo Bro TS, if apples can keep the doctors away
love and patience should help you & yr gal in the mood to play
thus given her past bad sexperience, just try to be very patient
shower her with love & care, & when in bed, dont charge like a horny lion

instead be gentle, engage in foreplay, kiss, rub, lick, suck and tease
until she's reduced to jelly, resist your urge and never insist
once she has regained her confidence of being loved
yo bro TS, your reward is not only great sex for her or you but for both

sta1100 · #5 23-08-2011, 04:07 PM

Hi Bro, Ned to check with you on some question, how would you know she still a V, as you have indicated that her Ex husband abuseing her. you mean no intercourse ???. If you have try getting her seek help, and there is no improvement. I would talk to her and ask her to put the pass behind and start a freash with you, if she want to settle down with you. Give her some time. if she really love you.
Take care

sorrowseed · #6 23-08-2011, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by sta1100

Hi Bro, Ned to check with you on some question, how would you know she still a V, as you have indicated that her Ex husband abuseing her. you mean no intercourse ???. If you have try getting her seek help, and there is no improvement. I would talk to her and ask her to put the pass behind and start a freash with you, if she want to settle down with you. Give her some time. if she really love you.
Take care

no intercourse at all. even went to a GP to have her checked

bro dirtyhairy, we're been trying it slowly ever since i've know her condition. seems like its a mind over matter thing. i can try to get her wet enough for her panties near soaking but never for my fingers to enter

Johnston · #7 23-08-2011, 04:28 PM

A good question is how do you know her hymen is still intact

If you are progressing to the stage of asking about that, its a wonder your not getting your dick sucked....

And if her husband has sexually abused her how is it that the hymen is still intact???

Lastly: around age 15 or so the hymen can be torn through normal athletic activity so ....

It's not adding up, pal

bigfat · #8 23-08-2011, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by sorrowseed

hello, i've been visiting this forum for 2-3 years and would like to share one of my main problem about a still virgin(yes, VIRGIN, as in hymen still intact) married friend of mine..

we've known each other through facebook last year due to an event and have been seeing each other since then. she's been forced to marry at a young age with her next door friend because of some old superstition and have been going through divorce procedure a few month before we met. things have been harsh on her and i was supporting her with my friends and helping her rebuild her life. a few month ago things between us went to more than friends. she would ask me to stay over and hug her to sleep, and one thing lead to another. kissing, touching and pettting. the problem is whenever i touch her clitoris or try to finger her, she would dry up not long after due to frequent sexual abuse from her husband. according to her, her husband likes to pinch and bite her hardly all over the place, including her clitoris part. she have no problem rubbing herself but whenever i touch her she would just dry up from her trauma. she also wont do blowjob cause her husband would always force her to deep throat and just cum deep inside her mouth. i've tried asking her to seek professional help but she's too scared to talk about her past. so to all brother and sister here, what can i do to let her enjoy a normal sexual life again? that is all she wish for now

bro let her just cool down.... don force her, when she needs it she will let u know.....

sorrowseed · #9 23-08-2011, 06:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Johnston

A good question is how do you know her hymen is still intact

If you are progressing to the stage of asking about that, its a wonder your not getting your dick sucked....

And if her husband has sexually abused her how is it that the hymen is still intact???

Lastly: around age 15 or so the hymen can be torn through normal athletic activity so ....

It's not adding up, pal

bro johnston, she's been checked by 2 doctor before and both report indicates that her hymen is still intact.
according to her, her husband would try to "chew" her clitoris

and even did wax dripping on her vagina
on why she doesnt suck me, that i dont have the answer yet

bro bigfat, quite the opposite, its her that is pushing, not me

i'm seeing her each week during her off day and she would sometimes greet me at the door naked

sorrowseed · #10 23-08-2011, 06:23 PM

bro johnston, she's been checked by 2 doctor before and both report indicates that her hymen is still intact.
according to her, her husband would try to "chew" her clitoris

and even did wax dripping on her vagina
on why she doesnt suck me, that i dont have the answer yet

bro bigfat, quite the opposite, its her that is pushing, not me

i'm seeing her each week during her off day and she would sometimes greet me at the door naked

bro sexonair, thanks for the advise. maybe on the next meeting i would bring some lubricant over. is baby oil ok? trying to set her up with a counselor friend of mine. doesnt want her to feel force. and virgin i'm not. its her that is the virgin and wanting

dirtyhairy · #11 23-08-2011, 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by sorrowseed

no intercourse at all. even went to a GP to have her checked

bro dirtyhairy, we're been trying it slowly ever since i've know her condition. seems like its a mind over matter thing. i can try to get her wet enough for her panties near soaking but never for my fingers to enter

Yes, indeed it's a problem Bro SSeed,
but look at d bright side, both of you're nearly there, save pussy no meet dick

Here's where Uncle DH will again his advice he will repeat
with love and patience, both of you will and can achieve the deed
looks like sth troubling her mind, so take her away to a nice romantic beach
have fun, relax,explore each other's body but only if she's ok with it
patience & more patience will eventually erase her mind that sex is sick
since she had been hurt before and her mind tormented to bits
but as both your feelings develop, her past memory of torture will remit
so treat her with care, love and respect, DHairy reckons will do the trick
So dont give up, good luck, and when you score, write FR for us to read

sorrowseed · #12 23-08-2011, 10:47 PM

bro dirtyhairy and sexonair, thanks for the advise. i've arrange for her to meet a counselor friend of mine. all we are waiting for is for her to make the 1st step calling my friend. dont wanna force her into doing things. weird thing about us is that we are not a couple or such, just mere friends going FB. do hope i can get to score her