Rocky marriage..

[Genting01]

Hi all forumers,

Just wanted to write as I have no one I think I can confide with.

I'm married for almost 6 months (with no kids). I've not had much sexual life with my wify since marriage. And prior to our marriage we do not have an active sex life. Our marriage has been rocky due to our differences in thinking (She has a much negative thinking than I like) and her family's constant expectations from me, treating as if my wife is the only human that needs care and I'm born to make sure things go well with her while I should be able to handle my own probs (Covers areas including financial and mental).
She can sense some problems and she did initiate a talk but I'm somehow unwilling to. Before I asked for her hand in marriage, I know its not purely out of love. She has had no luck with jobs and she has aging parents to care for. I thought I can share her burden, take care of her and hope for things to turn for better. So I know I'm an asshole to some as I did not marry her out of love but on naive thinking and hope for better days.
Throughout the past months, I've had thoughts of a divorce more than once. During this time, I've kept in contact with an ex-classmate who is engaged to her bf. No thoughts about having an affair with her because I know I'm married.
Complication comes when now I'm having a crush with a colleague of mine who is 6 years my senior. My constant thought now is should I hold on to the marriage as I've heard ppl saying 'love takes time to nurture' or 'you may not marry the one you loved most'. Or maybe should I pursue further with this colleague of mine (who has showered me with attention beyond colleague) and see if I can fight for a happier life.

Thanks for reading or comments and my apologies for the poor language as I'm just typing out my thoughts without thinking much on perfecting the language

BR

[exskk]

Hi try talk things out with your wife... It is very important for couple to communicate for better understanding.

[astronaut]

Don't do anything silly. All women are about the same. No one is perfect. If its not these it will be something else that you will not be happy about. Just look at the things you marry her for and luxuriate in them. A marriage without conflicts is almost inconceivable as a nation without crisis.

[SharkAttack]

TS, do the right thing for yourself. Talk it out with you current wife. If things dont get better by 1month do it.

As for your crush or whatever, if you think its a better deal and would mean a more stable and sex-fulfilling one then go for it.

Regardless of your choice, always do you best. 1 life live it to your fullest

[bg102]

Hey bro

I think you are not in a good situation, instead of divorce, maybe you should think of trying to get an annulment, since only 6 months. Don't know if possible but try. this way both of you are "never" married before instead of being divorced.

I suggest you to move on and not hold on to something that would most likely not improve for you.

[zoorich]

Bro,

Have a good talk with your wife. I have been thro a divorce and its not fun bro. Thou it mainly my fault for my own divorce and till now i kept regretting thinking what i can do more to save my marriage.

I hope you will do your best to save yours. Don't wait till its too late.

[magical]

Bro,

Of all forums u chose to ask for advice here, we are all perverts.

Show us some pictures and tell us some stories for heaven's sake.

But let me share with you the secret of a sucessful marriage,

It's still a secret, nobody can offer you any advice, sorry for being straight.

Cheers

[acidicavex]

No offense bro do yourself and your spouse a big big favor. Have a talk discuss how to go about it. Cause you will be the one most likely to cause her grief and pain.

So time to face reality than to ignore it and let it end up in misery. So do the right thing for u n wife n her aged parent.

You know better than any of us here you already have a answer just want some moral support and convincing to make yourself feel less guilty.

[littlepok]

i will suggest let ur little bro do the talking. please do not get me wrong. sometimes, sex is not just for brother pleasure, it is good bonding period. this could be 1 of the reasons why u are drifting apart. if ur sex life is getting boring, do it differently. for example, different style, different venue (1 night stay at nice hotel) etc. tools and DVD also fine but i guess she is not ready for them. sound conservative and slightly dead fish to me.

my gf and soon-to-be wife does not give me the greatest sex to little bro but the close feelings make up for it. still can cuddle and laze on bed, unlike FL go bathe, dress up and rush to next client, leave u and sleeping bro on bed.

have more frequent sex and u will find chatting on bed is much closer than ever before. tell her about your thoughts slowly on bed. u will find how easy it is to talk about such problems as ur pressure is released momentarily after bursting your cum. hope all goes well from there.

PS: there is no perfect woman/wife (u are not perfect to her also). it's how u accept each other for who they are. for now, u think your senior colleague is better but even if u got together with her, u will feel another woman is even better. the cycle will never end. it's knowing how to be contented that u will be truly happy.

best wishes

[liberatte]

Many men kiss their wife goodbye when thry leave their house... Many more kiss their house goodbye when they leave their wife...

If you're just thinking about yourself... Then leave her and see what happens. I am saddened by the fact that its just 6 months... Stay patient.. if she's a flop with something (jobs) it doesn't mean shes a flop in everything. She may be a good mom...

[H2001]

HavE a talk with her . Ur love for ur senior is maybe just a one off think .

[ah rat]

Ts,talk to her and improve yours sexual life with yours wife.It bring you closure to her

[Ngengheng]

Originally Posted by Genting01

Hi all forumers,

She has had no luck with jobs and she has aging parents to care for. I thought I can share her burden, take care of her and hope for things to turn for better.

BR

Give it a shot bro. There is love out there. If u willing to share her burden it means u love her.

[yang punk]

TS

You appear immature and fickle minded. Even if you were to leave your wife now and go for your colleague, the relationship will not last and soon you will find fault with her too.

Why don't you give yourself more time to examine the reasons why you chose to marry your wife in the first place?

[analog]

Originally Posted by Genting01

Hi all forumers,

Just wanted to write as I have no one I think I can confide with.

I'm married for almost 6 months (with no kids). I've not had much sexual life with my wify since marriage.
Complication comes when now I'm having a crush with a colleague of mine who is 6 years my senior.
BR

Bro:

Sorry to hear about your problems...i quoted only part of your initial post....
If you're only married 6 months and you guys aren't ripping your clothes off each other at every opportunity.....its done mate. In fact, from what you wrote, it never was. You have nothing there I'm afraid.

You're newlyweds, you should be having WILD sex right now and from what you've said, you've never had wild sex.

Your colleague is a side issue and not the point.

Get divorced and start again, you don't have any kids, do it now.

Cheers,
jim