Screwed sex life ?

[narathv]

Today, my worst fears of my life came true.

I had my first ever session with a PRC masseur earlier in the day who does massage, JG and HJ.
Towards the end of the session, she did a HJ and the usual GFE stuff, but however I tried, my 2ic couldn't really stand much. And thus I couldn't cum. It is really embarrassing.

The masseur has received many high MRs, so her skill shouldn't be the problem. I can tell that she tried her best to make me cum as well.

I am just worried that I have some erectile problem due to my bdsm fantasies. I have been using thoughts with bdsm fantasies to pcc most of the time.
Could it be because my mind is too attuned to bdsm fantasies and thus I have difficulty cunning from 'vanilla' stuff like a female giving me HJ ?

I am just trying to comfort myself that maybe I am too nervous on my first try with such massage sessions or I just can't click very well with PRC, but it all seems to be excuses?

[BDHUNTER]

See a doctor.

[maxsee]

Erectile dysfunction....better see an urologist before it is too late.....

[LanJiaoSeh]

Originally Posted by BDHUNTER

See a doctor.

agree. right advice.

[tanhockgin]

You dun need to see a doctor as your problem is psychological.

U hv fantasize so vivdly that common sex is vanilla and boring to u whether you know it or not.

2 things u can do.

1) deprive your self visually, physically and mentally of sex for 1 month. This is to reset your sexual appetite to normal so that you get arouse but just looking at a woman.

2) the other is to fantasize or participate in your fantasy by bringing it to reality. This is easier but not always the best as you will pursue darker fantasy and become more difficult.

The best is to share your fantasy with someone who is into it, like your spouse and partner so that you enjoy sex without guilt.

[pleasurehobby]

Originally Posted by tanhockgin

You dun need to see a doctor as your problem is psychological.

U hv fantasize so vivdly that common sex is vanilla and boring to u whether you know it or not.

2 things u can do.

1) deprive your self visually, physically and mentally of sex for 1 month. This is to reset your sexual appetite to normal so that you get arouse but just looking at a woman.

2) the other is to fantasize or participate in your fantasy by bringing it to reality. This is easier but not always the best as you will pursue darker fantasy and become more difficult.

The best is to share your fantasy with someone who is into it, like your spouse and partner so that you enjoy sex without guilt.

Agree with you bro.

Psychologically is often a bigger issue then people realised.

[Smallandstrong]

Seems like its a psychological issue.

Take a good rest, go pump some weights, take a run.

Repeat this routine for a week or two.

You'll be revitalized.

Eating well is important too. Avoid fatty and fried foods as they decrease your desire.

[vivianee]

better consult a doctor.

[MrNiow]

TS, u gone to see a doc?

[freezetheDB]

stay off bdsm porn, and reduce to minimal masturbation; when you pcc, dont think of bdsm fantasy

u need some time to get your body back to default mode.

[pleasurehobby]

Originally Posted by freezetheDB

stay off bdsm porn, and reduce to minimal masturbation; when you pcc, dont think of bdsm fantasy

u need some time to get your body back to default mode.

Definitely, agree.

I always recommend to avoid extreme pornography and fetishes.

They often over stimulate the mind, which results in real intercourse becoming much less satifactory.

One tip i would suggest, is to smell your lady more. The pheromones of a fresh lady is much more potent than many vigras out there.

[KingFahd]

Originally Posted by freezetheDB

u need some time to get your body back to default mode.

Very well said bro

[DoctorTan]

Agree with all the comments here.

From the way you describe it, it sounds to me like your problem is more psychological than physical.

I think all the suggestions here are good.

If you find that your confidence is badly affected and the fear of not getting an erection is preventing you from getting an erection, then you might want to see a doctor for a PDE5I (viagra, cialis etc). As a short term fix to get your confidence back.

[OnTheRoof]

Originally Posted by DoctorTan

Agree with all the comments here.

Same here as well